Never go on trips with anyone you do not love. – Ernest Hemingway
Even when we were just friends, Steven and I already dreamt of being able to travel. Steven, being older and more stable than I, had already spent many times visiting beautiful countries. During those times, I just had a picture in my mind the places I dream to visit. I did not think that someday, I would be visiting countries too.
As what the cliche says, “Life is full of surprises.” Indeed, it is.
It is full of surprises and it always offer choices. Life is all about choices. While the people we know choose to get married, have kids and build a family, Steven and I choose the other way around. We have been busied ourselves working, saving money, traveling and improving our relationship.
I am a firm believer that travel can make or break a relationship. When it comes to us, our travel experiences make us better individuals and help us to understand more of each other. The following are the benefits we get from it.
1. We learn to adapt to differences.
Having an open communication lessen our arguments.
As we try to know the culture of the country we are visiting, we are also finding out that we have been exposed to each other’s culture as well. Steven to Filipino culture and I to Korean. Sometimes my expectations clash with his that will eventually lead to discomfort. But, I guess that was what we needed for us to realize our imperfections.
We compromised to respect each other’s differences. From that, we learned how to adjust with one another’s behaviors by being more considerate in whatever we say or do in order not to offend or hurt feelings. Traveling together directed us to look at things with a different perspective.
2. There is always someone who will look for you.
Traveling with a partner will make you feel safer and more comfortable. There will always be someone to look after your things when you need to go to the comfort room. When you get a problem in something, you will know that there is a person who is ready to listen and offer an advice. If you get lost, your partner will surely look for you everywhere.
3. The stomach is always well taken cared of.
I absolutely never had a time starving during our trip. My boyfriend knows what are my favorites. He would always go to a restaurant that serves sea foods because he knows I love it best.
If my pace slows down, he would search for an ice cream shop and buy one for me. He knows that ice cream is my energy booster.
When we visited LGB Cake Shop inside IFC Mall in Hongkong, my boyfriend asked me to choose all the cakes that I think were delicious. I pointed to four kinds of cake because I thought he would just like to know what were they. I was thinking he would just tell me to choose what I wanted to eat. He knows that I easily get full.
To my surprise, he bought all those cakes that I pointed. I was glad that I just chose four kinds and not everything. I was not able to eat all of them and Steven was forced to eat some cakes too even he does not like sweets.
4. It always turns out to be a safe and stress-free travel
I feel secured even I was with strangers because I knew that there was someone who could protect me anytime. Most especially when we went to a crowded place, my boyfriend had been always there to check on me. I felt like a child when he reminded me to never let go of his hand. If I wanted to separate from him I should make sure I do not get very far because getting lost in a foreign place is stressful.
5. Seeing your partner’s true color without pretensions.
I think this is the one that I like the most. Traveling with him gave me an opportunity to know who is he at his best and at his worst. I have seen how he became upset, how he became afraid, how he laugh, and the like.
There were plenty of times I caught him off guard doing a random act of kindness on the road. Like that time while when we were walking, I kept on talking thinking that my boyfriend was just beside me. I asked a question to him and not gaining any response at all made me glanced at my side. Surprisingly, my boyfriend was not with me. I searched for Steven when I caught a sight of him from a distance offering a hand to two women who were carrying a bulky luggage which was too heavy for them. I felt it quite unusual to see such a sight these days. My boyfriend assisted them to carry their luggage up to the steep stairs. Seeing the women’s faces looking at him with gratefulness made me a proud girlfriend.
There was also a time when he helped a fellow couple to reach a certain place by sharing our route when we went there. He also always does not forget to say “thank you” even to simple things.
6. More places to discover
I have been always the one who do our travel itineraries. Most of the time, I go to places which I think were less touristy. Whenever I consult it to my boyfriend, he will also include places that were used as locations for different films. One good example of this is the Central-Mid-Level Escalators were “Chungking Express” (1994) and “The Dark Knight” (2008). It was also used in Jackie Chan’s movie “The Accidental Spy” (2001). This is an advantage to someone who is a movie fanatic.
7. There are no dull moments.
Isn’t it when we are with someone we love, everything seems to be almost perfect? Steven is better than me when it comes to History. He always has something to share whenever we get on and get off be it on a tram, bus, taxi, or ferries. I have always felt like I was a student listening to my History teacher. My boyfriend has also the skill to carry on a conversation with just Google Map on our phone and street signs on the road. Indeed, he was a road savvy.
The physical body might sometimes get exhausted in traveling but not the heart. The experiences on the roads certainly enrich one’s lives and relationships. The memories it brings cannot equal any material things in life.
Have you tried traveling with your partner?
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